Oscar or Felix -- Which One Are You More Like?
On a website for medical tee shirts there is a contest going on. There are 2 shirts available and part of the price goes to two different charities, The Obsessive-Compulsive Foundation or CHADD.
What do they say on the shirts?
TEAM
O.C.D.
Ridding the world of
Disorganization
TEAM
A.D.D.
Keeping the
world Interesting
Which one would you buy? Which would your best friend, husband, wife, partner, co-worker, child, sibling, or other in your life purchase? Are you more Felix-like, OCD? Or more Oscar-like, ADD? What I like most about the tee shirts is that they point out the gift within each personality or style of living.
I used to think it was just me that attracted friends who left things on counters, doors unlocked, rolls of paper empty, garbage overflowing, couldn’t focus on anything for long, changed plans at the last minute, and was unable to ever complete a project they had started. In return, I imagine they are also wondering just how it is they attract these friends who have a place for everything, can’t start one thing without finishing the last, have to know what’s happening each day of the coming week on vacation, and put the glass in the dishwasher almost before they have finished their drink. If you are ever interested in the biology behind each check out “Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program That Allows You to See and Heal the 6 Types of ADD” by Daniel Amen, M.D. and read up on Types 1, 2 and 3. But, in the meantime, the trick is to deal with each other.
Let’s consider the ways to do so. I can’t say this better so let’s listen to the way a journalist for the Toronto Globe and Mail put it: “Like the classic TV pair, Oscar and Felix, behind their glaringly obvious differences lie mutual respect, admiration, and complicity”. What a fabulous formula for succeeding in relationship with each other:
Consider, as reported in an interview of Jack Klugman on about.com: “he realized early on that the key to their relationship was that Oscar loved Felix, and that somewhere in each show that message had to be sent in order for it to work.” And isn’t that what relationships are all about?
What do they say on the shirts?
TEAM
O.C.D.
Ridding the world of
Disorganization
TEAM
A.D.D.
Keeping the
world Interesting
Which one would you buy? Which would your best friend, husband, wife, partner, co-worker, child, sibling, or other in your life purchase? Are you more Felix-like, OCD? Or more Oscar-like, ADD? What I like most about the tee shirts is that they point out the gift within each personality or style of living.
I used to think it was just me that attracted friends who left things on counters, doors unlocked, rolls of paper empty, garbage overflowing, couldn’t focus on anything for long, changed plans at the last minute, and was unable to ever complete a project they had started. In return, I imagine they are also wondering just how it is they attract these friends who have a place for everything, can’t start one thing without finishing the last, have to know what’s happening each day of the coming week on vacation, and put the glass in the dishwasher almost before they have finished their drink. If you are ever interested in the biology behind each check out “Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program That Allows You to See and Heal the 6 Types of ADD” by Daniel Amen, M.D. and read up on Types 1, 2 and 3. But, in the meantime, the trick is to deal with each other.
Let’s consider the ways to do so. I can’t say this better so let’s listen to the way a journalist for the Toronto Globe and Mail put it: “Like the classic TV pair, Oscar and Felix, behind their glaringly obvious differences lie mutual respect, admiration, and complicity”. What a fabulous formula for succeeding in relationship with each other:
- Respect, rather than judge, the others in your life. Maybe neither is all right or all wrong. What happened to the apartment when Felix was gone? And what happened to the fun in Felix’ life when Oscar was gone?
- Notice the “gifts” of the difference and express them to each other. Thank the Oscar for keeping life interesting. And thank the Felix for keeping your life “together” and making sure the project is complete and correct.
- And finally, understand that the other “can’t help it” at times. Learn to rate on a scale of 1-10 just how much a behavior bugs you. Let go of those 5 and under, talk to them about 6-10.
Consider, as reported in an interview of Jack Klugman on about.com: “he realized early on that the key to their relationship was that Oscar loved Felix, and that somewhere in each show that message had to be sent in order for it to work.” And isn’t that what relationships are all about?